Conversion

CARR 86-87

CCAR RESPONSA

Contemporary American Reform Responsa

50. Teenagers and

Gerut

QUESTION: A number of teenagers have indicated a

serious interest in Judaism. The first is a girl! whose divorced mother married a Jew. The

youngster was raised as a Presbyterian until age eight with no subsequent religious training. She

would like to formally convert and participate in confirmation at the age of sixteen. The mother

has not converted and the stepfather although affiliated with the congregation is not active in

it. The second individual is a boy whose mother moved to Israel when he was two and

lived there for ten years as part of the Beta Yisrael Movement of Black Americans in Dimona.

The boy speaks fluent Hebrew and has a fairly well developed Jewish education. The mother

never converted nor did any member of the family. The young man has disavowed any Christian

attitudes or theologies which were originally part of the group when he moved to

Israel. The third is a young girl from a non-Jewish home in which neither parents

practice Christianity but certainly are not interested in Judaism; she has attended religious school

with a friend and requested permission to come regularly. She has also indicated the desire to

participate in Confirmation with or without conversion. (Rabbi J. Stein Indianapolis

IN)ANSWER: Traditionally a sixteen-year-old individual was considered all adult

and could therefore make his own choice as far as gerut (conversion) was concerned.

Such an individual would be accepted like any other convert and simply join the Jewish people

(W. Jacob, American Reform Responsa #65). However in our age sixteen is still pal t of

childhood and such an individual is not an adult in any legal or formal sense. Therefore we

should treat such an individual as a minor. We must acknowledge that these three

youngsters come from very different backgrounds and with different motivations; we must begin

by asking some fundamental questions. To what extent is their interest in Judaism part of a

teenage rebellion? Are family or psychological problems present? What is the attitude of the

parents toward the wish of their child to become Jewish? Is a friendship with a Jewish child the

primary motivating factor? These and other similar questions must be properly answered before

any further steps are taken. In addition we should clearly indicate to each youngster

that although it is possible theoretically for us to accept teenagers as converts, we would as a

matter of principle not do so. A teenager is a minor for us in twentieth century America. We also

recall that we have frequently suffered from efforts to convert children and teenagers to

Christianity in the past, and fully understand the potential problems involved. We, therefore,

suggest that these youngsters participate in all informal programs of the congregation, but in no

formal instruction. If their interest is serious, and endures, then they may follow the path of

gerut when they are adults. In summary, we would strongly discourage

conversion at age sixteen, nor should the ceremony of conversion and confirmation be combined

.June 1984

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ARR 209-211

CCAR RESPONSA

American Reform Responsa

65. Gerut and the Question of Belief

(Vol. XCII, 1982, pp. 211-213)QUESTION: A young woman wishes to convert to Judaism. She has given her reasons for doing so as follows. She will marry a Jewish man and wants to establish a home which shall be unified religiously. She has been impressed by the strength of Jewish family life and by its close-knit unity. Her ethical and moral values coincide with those of Judaism; she is strongly committed to Jewish ethical values, and has considerable interest in Israel and Zionism. She does, however, consider herself agnostic and doubts whether her attitude will change. In all of these matters she is in complete agreement with her Jewish fiance. She feels no attachment to her former Christian background. Can we accept such an individual as a convert to Judaism? (D.O., Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania)ANSWER: The traditional approach to converts was to warn them that they were joining a persecuted community and that many obligations were incumbent upon them. This was followed by a discussion of the ritual necessary for conversion (Yev. 46, 47; Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh De-a 268; Yad, Hil. Isurei Bi-a 15). It is clear that the “obligations” were the mitzvot and, of course, it was understood that all of these were of divine origin. Therefore, the source of the mitzvot had to be accepted. Modern Orthodox authorities have generally rejected converts who join us for the sake of marriage. Some would accept them in order to avoid the conversion by Reform rabbis (Mendel Kirshbaum, Menachem Meshiv, #9), because civil marriage has preceded, or because the couple is living together (David Hoffman, Melamed Lehoil, Even Ha-ezer 8, 10; Yoreh De-a 85). Similar arguments have been advanced by Meshulam Kutner in Uketora Ya-asu, and by Moses Feinstein in Igerot Mosheh, Even Ha-ezer 27. However, the greatest number of Orthodox authorities have rejected these arguments (e.g., Joseph Saul Nathanson, Jacob Ettlinger, and Yehiel Weinberg). Their rejection, even for consideration as converts, was based upon the ulterior motivation and the likelihood that they would not accept all of the commandments which are not generally observed in the Jewish community today and probably not kept by the Jewish partner (Isaac Herzog, Heichal Yitschak, Even Ha-ezer I, #20; Meir Arak, Imrei Yosher I, #176; Abraham Kook, Da-at Kohen, #154; Moses Feinstein, Igerot Mosheh, Yoreh De-a I, #157, 160; Even Ha-ezer III, #4; CCAR Yearbook, vol. 2, pp. 66ff; Rabbi’s Manual, pp. 17ff). It is, therefore, quite clear that in Judaism, belief in God has been considered and was implied as a basis for conversion. The nature of that belief may have varied considerably, as there has always been wide latitude in Judaism and many divergent concepts have been acceptable. The Biblical figure Ruth has generally been taken as the prototype for all later converts. Her classical statement (in Ruth 1:16) mentioned God only at its conclusion, leading some commentators to the conclusion that while rejection of pagan beliefs was considered essential, belief in God might be achieved gradually. The Biblical Book of Job and many of the psalms display questions verging on agnosticism. Some Spanish Jewish philosophers and those of Renaissance Italy expressed similar doubts. Such thoughts were, however, rejected in the more restrictive ghettos of Central and Eastern Europe. In modern times the writings of Mordecai Kaplan, Martin Buber, Walter Kaufman, and a host of others have presented a variety of radical positions, sometimes close to agnosticism. Sections of the English prayers in the service of Gates of Prayer are written from this questioning stance. Many prospective converts have been and will be motivated by the openness of Judaism which encourages exploration of all ideas even while demanding that the Jewish path of life (Halacha) be followed. The woman in question does not deny the existence of God and is not an atheist. We would not have accepted her if she denied the existence of God, but we should accept this convert with the feeling that her attachment to Judaism and the knowledge of it are sufficient to bring her into Judaism and to help her develop a commitment to this religion. As her Jewish life continues, she may also change her views on the nature of God.Walter Jacob, ChairmanIsaac NeumanLeonard S. KravitzHarry A. RothRav A. Soloff

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RR21 no. 5756.13

CCAR RESPONSA COMMITTEE 

5756.13 

Circumcision for an Eight-Year-Old Convert

She’elah.

Last year, a family in my congregation adopted an eight-year-old boy from the Far East. He attends religious school, participates in Jewish activities with his family, and intends to continue doing so in the coming years. He is not circumcised, however, and he adamantly refuses to undergo the procedure as part of his conversion ritual. His parents, who have their own reservations about milah, are not insisting that he be circumcised.

Assuming that the child is willing to go to the mikveh and that I cannot convince him and his parents that he should undergo circumcision, can I consider him a Jew? May I call him to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah when he reaches the age of thirteen? (Rabbi Rosalind Gold, Reston, Virginia)

T’shuvah.

The issue here is whether a boy (or, for that matter, an adult male) who fears circumcision or simply refuses to undergo that procedure may be accepted as a convert to Judaism. Traditional halakhah, of course, says “no”: “one is not a proselyte until he has been circumcised and ritually immersed.”1 The Reform movement in the United States, however, says “yes.” The Central Conference of American rabbis has been on record since 1893 as accepting conversion “without any initiatory rite, ceremony, or observance whatever.” It is sufficient that the prospective Jew-by-choice declare his or her acceptance of the essential doctrines of Judaism and determination “to adhere in life and death, actively and faithfully, to the sacred cause and mission of Israel, as marked out in Holy Writ.”2 This resolution has remained on the books for more than a century and as such is the official position of the Conference. In the words of a Reform responsum which bears directly upon this issue, while a ger “should be encouraged to undergo circumcision,” this could “strictly speaking” be waived in accordance with the 1893 resolution.3

This answer would, “strictly speaking,” fulfill our responsibility in this case. As a standing committee of the CCAR, we are bound by clear statements of Conference policy, and no policy statement can be clearer than the 1893 resolution which does away with the ritual and ceremonial requirements for conversion. Yet we cannot be satisfied with a simple restatement of that resolution, and this for two reasons:

  1. The 1893 resolution is accompanied by a lengthy report which justifies its conclusions on the basis of proofs drawn from biblical and rabbinic tradition. Those proofs rest upon readings of the sources that are, at best, questionable, and our concern for scholarly accuracy requires that we subject those arguments to critical analysis. We hasten to add that this analysis does not affect the validity of the resolution, whose force derives directly from a vote of the Conference and does not depend upon the cogency of its supporting argumentation. Nor does it in any way detract from our respect for our predecessors. These were students of Torah, whose love of Torah is evident to all who read their words. They were, in a word, rabbis, and their determination to base their position upon the interpretation of sacred text set the standard for a modern, liberal, and scholarly rabbinate. If we critique their work, it is because we seek to follow their example: a steadfast devotion to truth and to intellectual integrity.
  1. A great deal has changed, to put it mildly, during the past one hundred years. American Reform Judaism at the close of the nineteenth century displayed an attitude toward ritual and ceremonial observance that differed greatly from our own. Today, at the close of the twentieth century, our practice with regard to conversion suggests that we have journeyed down a different path than the one our predecessors advocated. Again, this fact does not mean that the resolution of 1893 is annulled or overturned; it does indicate, however, that many of us do not consider ourselves bound to the ritual theory and approach which dominate that document.

For these reasons, we feel that the simple response described above cannot suffice here. In the following, we shall consider the issue of conversion rituals generally; we shall then turn to our suggested resolution for this particular case.

I. “Circumcision for Adult Proselytes”: The Resolution of 1893. At the 1892 convention of the CCAR, a special committee was appointed to study the subject of milat gerim, the circumcision of adult proselytes. The committee, chaired by R. Isaac M. Wise, submitted its report to the Conference the following year. The report, reprinted in American Reform Responsa and extending over twenty-one pages of that volume,4 concluded that no initiatory rites or ceremonies ought to be required for conversion to Judaism; its conclusion was adopted by vote of the Conference. Our teacher Rabbi Solomon B. Freehof devoted a responsum of his own to the analysis of the 1893 report.5 In his summary, he notes that the committee bases its argument upon three essential points:

  1. The Torah contains no requirement of an initiatory rite (circumcision or immersion) for the proselyte (ger).
  2. While initiatory rites became customary (minhag) during the rabbinic period, they never achieved the status of actual rabbinic law (halakhah); hence, no definite requirement for circumcision or immersion is found in the Mishnah.
  3. The less-than-definite status of these rites can be seen in the fact that some medieval rabbinic authorities do not regard them as indispensable for conversion.

As R. Freehof writes, “if this statement can be proved adequately, it is of considerable importance.” It would demonstrate that although circumcision (milah) and immersion (t’vilah) play a pivotal role in the traditional rabbinic conception of the process of conversion, neither is absolutely required. That proof would allow us to say that according to the theory (if not the practice) of Jewish law, one could become a proselyte without undergoing these rituals. The difficulty, however, is that serious objections can be raised against each of these three assertions.

A. The Torah. The 1893 report notes that there are over fifty references to the ger in the Torah, verses which prescribe how this “stranger” is to be accommodated and treated within the Israelite community, He is to be loved (Lev. 19:33-34), given sustenance (Lev. 19:10 and 23:22), and treated as an equal under the law (Num. 15:15-16 and elsewhere: “there shall be one law for you and for the ger, etc.”). Yet nowhere does Scripture demand that the ger undergo any particular initiatory rite, such as circumcision or immersion, in order to assume the status of ger within the community. Even Exodus 12:48, which requires that a ger who wishes to take part in the Paschal sacrifice “circumcise the members of his house”, means simply that as a Jew the proselyte has the duty to circumcise the male members of his family. It is only then, after he has converted to the Israelite religion, that he has the obligation to be circumcised as does any other Jewish male. The point, however, is that he becomes a proselyte without milah, for the Torah does not oblige a person to undergo any particular ritual in order to qualify as a ger.

The difficulty with this argument is its assumption that the biblical ger is equivalent to the “proselyte” of later times who was designated by the same word. The Bible, in fact, does not know of the institution of “proselyte”, if by that we mean a person who adopts the Israelite or Jewish faith. The biblical ger is, rather, a “stranger” or a “resident alien,” a foreigner who dwells in the land but is not a citizen thereof. This is certainly the sense of the word as Abraham uses it in Genesis 23:4, when he tells the Hittites that “I am a ger and a toshav among you.” Abraham surely does not mean to say that “I am a proselyte”; he declares instead that he is a “resident alien” in the community, which is precisely how the verse is rendered by the most widely-accepted Jewish translation of the Bible.6 As such, the ger is a person “who lacks certain privileges that citizens have, in this case, the right to own land.”7 Similarly, the word ger describes the status of the Israelites during their sojourn in Egypt.8 We are enjoined to remember that “you were gerim in the land of Egypt.” Here, too, the term cannot possibly mean “proselyte.” We were, rather, “strangers” and aliens in a land which did not belong to us. This was a condition of powerlessness that led to our enslavement; we are therefore commanded to recall that experience and to learn from it not to mistreat the gerim in our midst, the resident alines under our political control. This notion of “alien-ness”, of the status of temporary resident, is used as well to depict our relationship toward God during our sojourn on earth. “I am an alien, resident with you” (Psalms 39:13); “for we are sojourners with you” (I Chronicles 29:15); “But the land must not be sold beyond reclaim, for the land is Mine; you are but strangers resident with Me” (Leviticus 25:23). Again, the Bible does not mean here to call us “converts” but rather to stress that we are temporary residents on God’s earth, mere custodians of that which we possess.

The biblical word ger does not mean “proselyte” because that institution did not exist in biblical times. In his classic study of Jewish proselytism, our late colleague Bernard J. Bamberger notes that “in the Bible the word ger means a foreign resident in Palestine. It is frequently joined by “and” to the word toshab, meaning the same thing, and usually translated “sojourner.” By contrast, “in Rabbinic Hebrew, the term ger means an actual convert.” When they wish to distinguish between individuals possessing these differing legal statuses, “the Rabbis coin the phrase ger toshab,” which means “resident alien.”9 This point is conclusively demonstrated by the biblical scholars Moshe Weinfeld10 and Jacob Milgrom,11 who document in great detail the precise legal distinctions between the biblical ger and the Israelite. While it is true that the Torah instructs that “there shall be one law for you and for the ger“,12 this statement should not be read (as, indeed, the 1893 report reads it), as a general rule;13 it applies only to the context of the particular case. The resident alien is indeed required, as is the homeborn Israelite (ezrach), to obey the civil (monetary) law of the land, and he is expected to observe those ritual laws which are prohibitive (mitzvot lo ta`aseh; “thou-shalt-nots”), since the violation of these pollutes the land and the Sanctuary.14 On the other hand, the ger is not obliged to observe the positive commandments (mitzvot aseh) of a ritual nature.15 These legal distinctions show that the ger of the Bible cannot be defined as a proselyte, for the latter, as understood by Jewish law and tradition, observes all the mitzvot, both positive and negative, that are incumbent upon the Jew. The ger, by contrast, is never an Israelite. He remains permanently an outsider, a non-member of the religious community of Israel.16

Thus, if the Torah does not impose initiatory rites upon the proselyte, this is because there were no proselytes during the biblical period. The ger, the resident alient, becomes a ger merely by taking up residence within the land. And though Israelites are required to love the stranger (Leviticus 19:34; Deuteronomy 10:19) and to care for him (Exodus 23:12; Deuteronomy 16:11, 14), this proves merely that the ger occupied a permanently inferior, if protected, legal status within the society.

The only reason we would identify the biblical ger, the “stranger,” with the later proselyte, not an alien but a member of the religious community in full standing, is that the ancient rabbis make that identification. It is they, and not the biblical authors, who tell us that “Scripture declares the equality of the ger with the native Israelite in all the commandments of the Torah.”17 The rabbis, to be sure, did not invent the institution of conversion, the process by which a Gentile adopts the Jewish faith and attains equal status alongside the native Jew with respect to all the mitzvot. Although we do not know for certain just when it came into being, the scholarly consensus holds that the procedure of conversion originated at some point during the pre-rabbinic Second Temple period.18 It is from that point, and not during the days of biblical Israel, that the Torah’s ger becomes understood as a proselyte, except for those cases in which it is clear to the rabbis that when Scripture says ger it is in fact referring to the “resident alien,” or ger toshav.19 It is from that point, when the Jews came to perceive “Israel” as a religious rather than a purely national identity, that entry into the community took on the form of religious conversion rather than legal residence and cultural assimilation.

Biblical literature and history cannot supply proof for the proposition that “Judaism requires no initiatory rites for converts,” because there were no “converts,” in our sense of the term, during that period. The ger-as-proselyte is an invention of the rabbinic tradition, and it is that same rabbinic tradition which requires that the Gentile who wishes to become a ger must undergo the specified initiatory rites.

B. Rabbinic Law. This, of course, is an assertion that the authors of the 1893 report strongly dispute. It is their opinion that the initiatory rites (milah and t’vilah) were never regarded as law by the ancient rabbis. They were instead a custom, a minhag, established during the post-Mishnaic period by the Amoraim, who had no authority to do so. Therefore, just as the initiatory rites are not mentioned in the Torah, so they cannot be regarded as a requirement of rabbinic law.

To justify this statement, the report must explain the substantial rabbinic source material which indicates the opposite, that circumcision and immersion are indispensable ritual requirements for conversion. The most important of these are:

  1. the statement of R. Judah Hanasi in B. K’ritot 9a that “just as Israel did not enter the covenant except by means of three things–circumcision, immersion, and the acceptance of a sacrifice–so it is the same with proselytes”;20

  2. the declaration in B. Y’vamot 46a-b by the tanaitic “sages,” by the Amora R. Yochanan, and by the s’tam (anonymous) Talmud that a male proselyte must be circumcised and immersed;
  1. the baraita (extra-mishnaic tanaitic statement) in B. Y’vamot 47a-b which describes the conversion procedure as including both milah and t’vilah as well as kabalat hamitzvot, acceptance of the religious obligations of a Jew.

In the face of this testimony, the 1893 report notes that these sources are baraitot, tanaitic statements which were not included in the Mishnah. For this reason, they are not “canon law,” for “Rabbi Yehudah Hanasi in his entire Mishnah laid down no rule, ordinance, or direction concerning the initiatory rites of the proselyte.  This must be a matter of surprise to those who consider those rites Rabbinical law.” Even Rabbi’s own statement (“just as Israel did not enter the covenant, etc.”) is merely an aggadic d’rashah, a “school chat.” It is not meant as halakhah, “or else the Rabbi must have stated it in the Mishna.”21

The difficulty with this argument is apparent. Although the explicit “rule” concerning the initiatory rites is found in baraitot, the extra-mishnaic tanaitic sources, there is no evidence that tanaitic opinion as a whole questions their necessity. If the Mishnah does not “lay down a rule,” it does mention the existence of initiatory rites for converts,22 and it never hints that a Gentile might become a proselyte without them.23 Moreover, nowhere in traditional Jewish law do we find a rule to the effect that something is not “halakhah” unless it is stated explicitly in the Mishnah. On the contrary: the post-talmudic halakhic codes, commentaries, and responsa cite a variety of literary sources in addition to mishnayot in support of their rulings. These include baraitot (included in the Talmudim, the Tosefta, or the halakhic midrashim), amoraic statements, and conclusions drawn from the s’tam talmud. The distinction between the legal authority of the Mishnah and that of all other classical rabbinic texts is unique to the authors of the 1893 report.24

A further (and fatal) difficulty for the assertion that the initiatory rites are not a requirement of Jewish “canon law” is the fact that nowhere in talmudic literature do we find any indication that a Gentile can become a valid proselyte (ger tzedek) without milah and/or t’vilah. The same holds for the post-talmudic halakhic literature, that body of writings that for nearly fifteen centuries has interpreted and applied the biblical and talmudic sources as the constitutive legal rhetoric of the Jewish community. From geonic times onward, all the poskim (halakhic decisors) have understood rabbinic law to require both initiatory rites as essential for conversion to Judaism.25 A Gentile who is circumcised and/or immersed for the purpose of conversion is a ger and is obligated to observe the mitzvot; in the absence of the necessary rites, he or she is not a Jew. There exists not the slightest evidence in the post-talmudic halakhic tradition of any dissent on this matter. And this lack of evidence dooms the argument that milat gerim and t’vilat gerim are not truly requirements of rabbinic law.

C. Post-Talmudic Literature. Yet the authors of the 1893 report believe that they have found such dissent. They offer citations from three medieval rabbinic authorities which purportedly declare that circumcision and/or immersion are not absolutely necessary for the validity of a conversion. If it is indeed correct that these authorities hold that one might become a ger without the initiatory rites, then the report has firm ground on which to conclude that these rites are not “canon law,” indispensable for conversion, but rather “custom (minhag) without foundation in the Torah.”

A close look at the three sources in question,26 however, reveals that they do not in fact support this conclusion.

  1. One of the texts is Kol Sakhal, in which “Rabbi Yehudah Aryeh de Modena…expressed his opinion” that according to the law of the Torah, the proselyte need not undergo any initiatory rites. The Torah prescribes only that once he has sons, the ger must circumcise them. If he himself does not wish to undergo this rite, however, “let him be ritually immersed, and this will suffice to make him a Jew in every legal sense.” We need not enter here into the scholarly debate over whether Leon (Yehudah Aryeh) de Modena (d. 1648) in fact authored Kol Sakhal.27 What is important is that the work in its essence is a polemic attacking the Oral Torah as a willful rabbinic distortion of the Torah of Moses. Kol Sakhal does not purport to be an interpretation of Jewish law but, quite to the contrary, an attack upon that law as promulgated by the rabbis.28 As Rabbi Freehof puts it, its author “does not give the law as it is, but as he believes it ought to be.”29 Thus, though it claims that the Torah, before the rabbis got hold of it, did not demand circumcision of the proselyte, the work does indicate that the rabbis do demand it, that existing Jewish law requires the initiatory rites for conversion; milat gerim, in other words, is indeed “canon law” and no “mere custom.”
  2. In his Sefer Hanitzachon, R. Yom Tov Lipmann Muelhausen (14th-15th century) assembles a polemical commentary on the Bible whose goal is to enable the Jewish reader to respond to Christian interpretations of Scriptural passages. On Genesis 17:10, R. Yom Tov writes that Christians sneer at Judaism because, since the rite of b’rit milah is so important, women cannot be truly Jewish. He responds: “faith (ha’emunah) does not depend upon milah but upon the heart. If one does not believe properly, his circumcision does not suffice to make him a Jew (yehudi). One who does believe properly is a Jew, even if uncircumcised; he simply has committed a transgression which must be rectified.” The authors of the report read this as a statement of halakhah: namely, that a male can become a ger without circumcision.

It is impossible to maintain this interpretation. R. Yom Tov never mentions the subject of conversion in this passage, which speaks instead of the born Jew. He wishes to argue the importance of faith and of proper belief in Judaism, to refute the Christian contention that ours is purely a religion of ritual and legalism. His purpose is to declare that the Jew–that is, the Jew-by-birth–realizes his identity as yehudi through proper faith. For this reason women as well as men can be “Jewish.” It is that point, hardly a revolutionary one, which can reasonably be inferred from the passage. Since R. Yom Tov does not discuss conversion here, and since Sefer Hanitzachon is not a treatise of halakhah but a work of polemic and homiletics, it is manifestly unreasonable to derive from his words the halakhic conclusion (one which would run counter to the accepted view among all the legal sources which R. Yom Tov recognizes as authoritative) that a Gentile male can legally convert to Judaism without circumcision.

  1. The third source is a responsum of R. Eliahu Mizrachi (15th-cent. Constantinople),30 “who expresses himself thus in regard to the acceptance of a proselyte: `Umide-oraita sagi bekabalat Torah bifnei beit din bilvad,’ `According to the Torah, the main declaration before a college of three to accept the Torah as the canon suffices for the proselyte [to receive him into the congregation of Israel] also, without circumcision and without the ritual bath.'”31 This is surely the most powerful piece of evidence supporting the conclusions of the 1893 report. For this responsum, unlike the Kol Sakhal and the Sefer Hanitzachon, is a legal text. Its existence suggests that an eminent halakhist understands Jewish law to hold that neither milah nor t’vilah is an indispensable requirement for conversion.

Unfortunately, Mizrachi’s responsum proves no such thing. The authors of the report misinterpret his ruling, which says nothing at all about the halakhic requirement of circumcision and immersion. Mizrachi is referring rather to the question whether these rituals must be carried out in the setting of a rabbinic court.32 In the correct rendering of the passage cited above, he writes that “according to the Torah, it is only the declaration of the acceptance of the Torah which must take place before a beit din, even if they [the judges] are not present at either the circumcision or the immersion.” He does not imply that the Torah does not demand either milah or t’vilah of converts; he states rather that should the ger undergo these rituals outside of the presence of a beit din his conversion might be valid, so long as he declared his acceptance of the Torah before three judges.33 In words, this ruling does not support the authors’ contention that the initiatory rites are not a requirement of Jewish “canon law.” Indeed, given its clear implication that a ger must undergo milah and/or t’vilah, if not necessarily before a beit din, Mizrachi’s teshuvah serves as additional evidence (as if any were necessary) that circumcision and immersion are the minimal ritual standards for the conversion process under the Jewish legal tradition.

We find, therefore, that the 1893 report fails to prove its principal contention that Jewish law does not require initiatory rites of converts. It follows that the resolution of that year which dispensed with the requirement of circumcision and immersion for converts is not justified on the basis of the Jewish legal tradition. This fact, of course, does not in and of itself invalidate the resolution, which remains on the books as the official policy of the Conference. Moreover, there may be other valid reasons besides the legal arguments presented in the report which do justify the resolution. Our findings are important, however, as a necessary correction to what we see as a scholarly error. We have taken the time to make this point because, as members of this Committee, we are concerned that our published responsa reflect the commitment of our rabbinate to the highest standards of scholarly accuracy. That very same commitment motivated the work of Rabbi Wise, his colleagues, and those who followed them. Our criticism of their words is thus in no way a sign of disrespect, but rather the highest kind of tribute we can pay to the example they have set for us.

II. The Reform Jewish Practice of Conversion. Even though the resolution of 1893 remains in force, its dispensation with the requirement of “initiatory rites” for conversion does not necessarily serve as an ideal or a standard for our contemporary practice. Indeed, many Reform rabbis do insist upon milah and t’vilah. The ceremony for conversion in our current Rabbi’s Manual provides for both circumcision and immersion for proselytes. While noting that these rites are not mandatory, it goes on to remark:

we recognize today that there are social, psychological, and religious values associated with the traditional rites, and therefore recommend that the rabbi acquaint prospective converts with the halakhic background and rationale for b’rit milah, hatafat dam b’rit and tevila and offer them the opportunity to observe these rites. In Israel, Canada, and various communities elsewhere, giyur (conversion) is performed by our colleagues in accordance with traditional halakhic practice.34

The Responsa Committee, too, has concluded in a number of teshuvot that milah and t’vilah are relevant and positive options for conversion under Reform auspices. We have noted that,”in practice, circumcision has been a virtually universal requirement.”35 And we have argued that the practice of t’vilah for converts allows us to preserve a sense of continuity with Jewish religious history and to express our solidarity with kelal yisrael, with Jewish religious practice everywhere, including the practice of the progressive Jewish communities outside the United States which insist upon the rite.36 These statements indicate that, even if not an absolute requirement, the initiatory rites have achieved the status of widespread custom (minhag pashut) among our communities.

We should note as well that the existence of a B’rit Milah Board of Reform Judaism, which supervises training programs for Reform mohalim/ot, is evidence that we take the mitzvah of circumcision with the greatest seriousness.37 We reject with the utmost vigor all ideological criticisms of the practice of circumcision. And while it is true that b’rit milah, conducted on the eighth day of a Jewish boy’s life, is not the same ritual as milat gerim, we fear that the willingness to be lenient concerning the latter might well be perceived as a less-than-enthusiastic devotion to the former.

In other words, if the 1893 resolution dispenses with the requirement of the initiatory rites, it does not prohibit their use. Our statements on the subject, along with the fact that many Reform rabbis insist upon circumcision and immersion for converts, demonstrate that we raise no substantive theological or ideological objection against them. On the contrary: there are valid, positive reasons why we ought to include them in our practice.

III. The Case Before Us. How do these considerations apply to the present she’elah? Our case is indeed a most difficult one. An eight-year-old boy, born and raised in another culture, has been adopted by a Jewish family. This is surely a good thing, both for the boy himself, who appears to be quite happy in his new home, and for his parents, who have come to know the blessing of children and family. We certainly commend their determination to fulfill the mitzvah of teaching Torah to their child, and we are pleased that he seems to be developing a positive Jewish identity. The one dark cloud on this bright Jewish horizon is the prospect of circumcision, which is terrifying to a boy of this age. His fear is all the more understandable when we remember that many dramatic changes have quite recently overtaken him; he needs time to adjust to them. His refusal of circumcision is likely an expression of his desire to gain a measure of control over his life. He will most probably continue to resist all efforts to convince him to be circumcised.

In general, the tendency of this Committee is to urge in the strongest terms that all proselytes undergo the traditional rites for entry into the covenant. We do so, not because we suppose that Orthodox Jews will recognize the validity of our conversions, but because we regard these practices as a positive Jewish standard that applies to us as it does to all other Jews. This testifies to our conviction that when we accept a ger or giyoret into our midst, we convert him or her to Judaism. Although we presume that our proselytes will remain firm in their commitment to a Reform approach to our faith and tradition, we do not require that they do so; we do not make their conversion contingent upon their staying within our fold. We are not in the business of creating a separate sect, cut off from the rest of our Jewish family. Rather, when we accept a proselyte, we admit this person into am yisrael, the Jewish community as a whole, a living and historical enterprise of which we are an organic part. We therefore believe that it is appropriate and preferable to mark the moment of conversion not simply with liturgy of our own creation but precisely with those rituals that are and have been for centuries employed by the Jewish community as a whole.

In our case, however, these considerations matter little. We are not dealing, after all, with an adult male who can be expected to understand the significance of circumcision and of milat gerim in the religious tradition which he seeks to adopt. We have here a young boy struggling, all at the same time, to adjust to a new family, a new nation, and a new religious community. Bombarded with many new stimuli, he quite naturally perceives the previously unheard-of rite of milah as yet one more insult, an especially strange and frightening one at that, to his person. If we insist upon circumcision, we might well administer a fatal blow to his developing identification with the Jewish people.

We think that the 1893 resolution of the CCAR speaks directly to situations such as this. Although we do not believe it to be an accurate interpretation of Jewish law, and although we do not think it reflects a sound religious policy for our movement, the resolution remains on the books, offering a practical solution for particularly difficult cases like the one before us. Under its terms, this boy can be converted to Judaism without either milah or t’vilah, although we would certainly recommend the latter inasmuch as he seems to offer no serious objections to it. Following conversion and upon reaching the age of religious majority, it would be his obligation, like that of any other uncircumcised Jewish male, to undergo milah. It might well be, as he matures as a person and as a Jew, that with continued gentle encouragement from his rabbi he will assent to the procedure.

If the 1893 resolution cannot be supported by the letter of Jewish law, it can be read–and is much better explained–as an expression of the law’s spirit, especially its concern that potential converts not be excluded from our community on account of ritual requirements that cannot be met. A case in point is the statement by R. Yehudah Hanasi in B. K’RITOT 9a that today’s proselyte, like our ancestors at Sinai, must enter the covenant by means of milah, t’vilah, and the offering of a sacrifice. The Talmud suggests that since sacrifices are no longer offered, we ought not to accept any gerim at all. The answer to this, however, is that we allow the ger to become a Jew by milah and t’vilah “and when the Temple is rebuilt, he shall bring his sacrifice.”38 That is to say, we do not turn away potential converts simply because they are incapable for reasons beyond their control of fulfilling one of the ritual requirements of giyur. Rather, the requirement is postponed, to be met when it becomes possible to do so. Another example is the rule that a person must convert in the presence of a beit din consisting of three judges. The talmudic source of this rule would seem to require that the judges be ordained, that is, recipients of semikhah, a practice which pertains only to Eretz Yisrael and which has long since been discontinued. How is it then that in the absence of such judges we still accept proselytes? Tosafot answers that the ordained judges of the land of Israel have empowered us to perform this task, “so as not to bar the door to gerim.”39 Again, a ritual element of the conversion process is suspended when insistence upon it make conversion an impossibility. Finally, the halakhah declares that a male whose penis has been severed is permitted to convert through t’vilah alone. In this case, when milah is a physicial impossibility, the person is nonetheless not on that account denied the opportunity to become a Jew.40

“Impossibility,” to be sure, is not to be equated with reluctance, fear, or even danger. Thus, halakhists have ruled that a male convert must undergo milah even if the circumcision would pose a medical danger to him.41 They would presumably make no exception to their ruling in our case, where the danger involves the psyche of a young boy. We, however, do make that exception. We insist, to repeat, on the value and importance of the initiatory rites. But we perceive a major difference between an adult male (and, for that matter, most boys), whose fear of circumcision can be acknowledged and dealt with, and the boy in our she’elah, the circumstances of whose life render circumcision more an “impossibility” than an experience he would simply wish to avoid. Moreover, Orthodox authorities point out that since, in any event, there is no requirement for a Gentile to convert, there is no compelling need for us to relax the ritual standards of giyur.42 In our case, however, this boy already thinks of himself as a Jew and is so regarded by his community. It is vital to his healthy emotional devlopment that we not turn him away by insisting on a rite to which, for the most understandable of reasons, he cannot at this moment say “yes.”

Conclusions. To summarize:

  1. The CCAR resolution of 1893, which dispenses with the requirement for initiatory rites for conversion, remains in force as our Conference’s official statement on the subject until such time as it is amended or repealed.
  1. The resolution, contrary to the assertions of the lengthy report which accompanies it, cannot be justified or defended as a persuasive interpretation of Jewish law. The biblical sources which mention the ger do not speak of a religious proselyte, and the talmudic and post-talmudic halakhic literature are uniform in their insistence upon the initiatory rites.
  1. Circumcision and immersion for proselytes are familiar elements of Reform practice, and we encourage their use, certainly for the conversion of adults, as a positive statement of our identification with kelal yisrael and the Jewish tradition.
  1. The 1893 resolution should therefore be interpreted as a standard to be applied in particularly unusual or extreme cases. It can be viewed as an expression of the spirit of the law of conversion, which relaxes certain ritual requirements when to insist upon their observance would make conversion impossible.
  1. The question before us presents such a case. This boy thinks of himself as a Jew, and we should do our best to receive him with love and to continue to draw him into the family of am yisrael. His personal history, however, renders circumcision an impossible (as opposed to a merely disagreeable or unpleasant) standard; to insist upon it would likewise make his conversion and subsequent growth as a Jew an impossibility. Since it is important that he continue along his present religious path, we hold that he may be converted through t’vilah alone and called to the Torah at age thirteen. His rabbi should, however, seek to persuade him of the vital importance of milah in the Jewish tradition, to the end that he will someday (perhaps even before he reaches the age of bar mitzvah) assent to have himself circumcised.

NOTES

  1. B. Y’vamot 46a-b; Yad, Isurey Bi’ah 13:6; SA YD 268:1-2.
  1. American Reform Responsa (ARR), no. 68, at 237; CCAR Yearbook 3 (1893), 95.
  1. ARR, no. 69.
  1. ARR, no. 68 (pp. 216-237).
  1. Reform Responsa for Our Time, no. 15.
  1. The Torah. (Philadelphia: Jewish Publication Society of America, 1962).
  1. Rabbi W. Gunther Plaut, The Torah: A Modern Commentary. (New York: Union of American Hebrew Congregations, 1981), 156.
  1. Gen. 15:13; Ex. 22:20 and 23:9; Lev. 19:34; Deut. 10:19 and 23:8.
  1. Bernard J. Bamberger, Proselytism in the Talmudic Period (New York: Ktav, 1968), 16. See also his comment to Lev. 19:34 in Plaut, op.cit., 899.
  1. Moshe Weinfeld, Deuteronomy and the Deuteronomic School (London: Oxford U. Press, 1972), 229-232.
  1. Jacob Milgrom, “Religious Conversion and the Revolt Model for the Formation of Israel,” Journal of Biblical Literature 101/2 (1982), 169-176. See also his remarks in The JPS Torah Commentary: Numbers (Philadelphia: The Jewish Publication Society, 1990), Excursus 34, 398-402.
  1. Ex. 12:48-49; Lev. 7:7 and 24:22; Num. 9:14, 15:15, 29-30.
  1. ARR, no. 68, at 218.
  1. Milgrom cites the arayot of Lev. 18 as an illustration. The ger as well as the ezrach is required to observe these sexual prohibitions (v. 26) because their violation defiles the land (v. 27). Likewise, Molekh worship, whether it is done by homeborn or resident alien, pollutes the sanctuary; thus, both are equally punished for it (Lev. 20:2-3). Presumptuous violation of a negative commandment subjects both the ger and the ezrach to karet (Num. 15:30). See his “Religious Conversion” for further examples.
  1. The ger may take part in the Passover sacrifice, but he does not have to do so (Ex. 12:47-48; Num. 9:13-14). The Israelite who is able to bring the sacrifice but does not do so is punished by karet (Num. 9:13). The ger may not, however, possess leaven, a violation of a negative ordinance. Similarly, the ger like the Israelite is forbidden to work on Yom Kippur, but he need not observe the positive commandment to “afflict himself” (by fasting) on that day (Lev. 16:29, 31). The positive commandment to dwell in the sukkah is explicitly addressed to the ezrach, the home-born, as opposed to the resident alien (Lev. 23:42).
  2. The case of Ruth, as well as others who seem to enter the community by means of accepting its religion, are not examples of conversion at all but of intermarriage. As we know, biblical law assumes that the wife follows the cultic practices of her husband. Thus, non-Israelites enter the community through assimilation, not conversion. The fear that assimilation will work to the disadvantage of Israel spurs the prohibition against intermarriage with the Canaanites in Deut. 7:3, as well as Ezra’s ban on intermarriage as a whole. Note, however, that neither of these sources speak of any effort, successful or not, to convert their neighbors to the religion of Israel. See Milgrom, “Religious Conversion,” 172ff, and his conclusion, at 175, that “conversion of individuals is not attested until the postexilic age.”
  1. Mekhilta to Ex. 12:49; Sifre Bamidbar, par. 109. The authors of the 1893 report admit that this equation goes beyond the biblical standard, even though they insist on defining the biblical ger as a proselyte; ARR, no. 68, at 229.
  1. Lawrence H. Schiffman, Who Was a Jew? Rabbinic and Halakhic Perspectives on the Jewish-Christian Schism (Hoboken, NJ: Ktav, 1985), 25.
  1. See the summary by Nachmanides in his comment to Ex. 20:10.
  1. See also Sifre Bamidbar, par. 108, and Gerim 2:5.
  1. ARR, no. 68, at 231.
  1. M. Pesachim 8:8 refers to the ger as “one who has separated from his foreskin” and despite the cursory efforts of the 1893 report to explain that Mishnah away, it seems clear that the reference is to milat gerim, the circumcision required for the conversion. See Chanokh Albeck’s comment ad loc., as well as R. Moses Mielziner in CCAR Yearbook 2 (1892), 96. At least one leading scholar (Schiffman, 27-31) reads that Mishnah as requiring t’vilah as well as milah for male proselytes.
  1. The report cites B. Y’vamot 46a-b, where R. Eliezer and R. Yehoshua disagree with the conclusion that both milah and t’vilah are essential for conversion, as evidence that the “law” of the initiatory rites was was a matter of dispute during tanaitic times and that it was the amoraim who fixed them as a requirement. It is more probable, however, that these two sages were not disputing the necessity of both rites. This baraita, as Bernard Bamberger concludes, is most probably a technical dispute over the precise moment at which conversion occurs: at milah, at t’vilah, or only upon the completion of both rites. See Bamberger, 51ff. See also Mielziner, 97, and Schiffman, 32-36.
  1. The report (at 236) claims that the initiatory rites were established as an edict (takanah) of the Amoraim, who did not have the power to do so, since all rabbinic legislative authority had become defunct with the disappearance of the Sanhedrin and the end of the tanaitic period. Thus, the rites are but mere “custom”. To this we might respond: 1. the evidence is overwhelming that the requirement of milah and t’vilah for converts was already established during the tanaitic period; 2. even if the requirement is the product of amoraic legislation, the power to legislate for all Israel does not cease until the end of the amoraic period, “the days of Rav Ashi and Ravina;” see Maimonides’ introduction to his Mishneh Torah.
  2. See note 1, above, as well as the geonic Halakhot Gedolot, Warsaw ed., 24d, and Hildesheimer ed., v. 1, p. 217; and Hilkhot HaRif (Alfasi), Y’vamot, fol. 15b-16a. Note the comments of both the Beit Yosef and the Bayit Chadash to the beginning of Tur YD 268: “the halakhah is decided (ifsika hilkheta) that” both milah and t’vilah are the minimum requirements for conversion. The requirement, in other words, is law and not “custom.”
  1. These are listed and described in ARR, no. 68, at 220.
  1. De Modena attributes the Kol Sakhal to an unnamed Sefardic author; de Modena himself is explicitly the author of the Sha’agat Aryeh, a brief response and refutation to the Kol Sakhal. The two works were published together by Isaac Reggio in 1852 under the title Bechinat Hakabalah. While Reggio and other scholars assume that de Modena is the composer of both books, not all agree; among the latter is Ellis Rivkin, who cites “positive evidence…that Leon could not have written the Kol Sakhal“; see Jewish Quarterly Review N.S. 40 (1949), at 156.
  1. Bechinat Hakabalah, 59.
  1. Freehof, op. cit., 76. He continues: “evidently those who participated in the Conference debate got their chief arguments here.”
  1. Resp. Mayim Amukim, ed. Berlin, 1778, no. 34.
  1. ARR, no. 68, at 229; see also at 220.
  1. Compare the language of this responsum to that of the codes (Yad, Isurey Bi’ah 13:6; SA and Tur YD 268:2) and the major commentaries thereto. The issue which all these sources address is whether all the rituals of giyur need to take place in a formal court setting (during daylight hours, in the presence of proper witnesses who are not relatives, etc.), or whether it is sufficient that kabalat hatorah takes place there. There is no evidence that R. Eliahu Mizrachi is discussing any issue which falls outside the confines of this technical discussion.
  1. As a matter of fact, R. Eliahu rules that in the case of an adult convert both milah and t’vilah must occur before a beit din. In the case of the child of a proselyte, however, we apply the de’oraita standard: if the mother accepted the Torah before a beit din, we do not require evidence that her immersion also took place before a court in order to declare the child Jewish.
  1. Rabbi’s Manual (New York: CCAR, 1988), 232. The conversion ceremony is at 199ff.
  1. ARR, no. 69, end. See also ARR, no. 57; Contemporary American Reform Responsa, nos. 44, 45, 47, and 49; Responsa Committee 5756.6 and 5752.2.
  1. Responsa Committee 5756.6, “A ‘Proper’ Reform Mikveh“.
  1. See Lewis M. Barth, ed., B’rit Milah in the Reform Context (New York: B’rit Milah Board of Reform Judaism, 1990), and Gates of Mitzvah, 13-16.
  2. Yad, Isurey Bi’ah 13:5.
  3. B. Y’vamot 46b and Tosafot, s.v. mishpat. The requirement of ordination, says Tosafot, derives from the fact that the word mishpat is applied to the ger in Num. 15:16; the root sh-p-t implies the presence of shoftim, “judges” in the Toraitic sense of the term, who possess the full array of power and authority pertaining to the status of the mumcheh or musmakh (ordinee).
  4. Tosafot, Y’vamot 46b, s.v. deRabbi Yose; SA YD 268:1 and Bi’ur HaGra, no. 4. In this case, when milah is a physical impossibility, we allow the man to follow the example of the women of the generation of Sinai, who entered the covenant by means of t’vilah alone (B. Y’vamot 46a-b).
  5. R. Avraham Yitzchak Hakohen Kook, Resp. Da`at Kohen, no. 150; R. Gedaliah Felder, Nachalat Tzvi, v. 1, 54-55.
  6. This is a major point in R. Kook’s argument in Da`at Kohen.

NARR 194-196

CCAR RESPONSA

New American Reform Responsa

124. The Course of Study for Gerut

QUESTION: Several members of a congregation have questions about the conversion of a woman who has recently joined the congregation. She has moved to our city from another state and they claim that the study which led to her conversion was insufficient. Upon investigation it was discovered that the woman in question was converted to Judaism after only an afternoon of instruction. She followed the normal ritual of conversion with the appropriate witnesses. Since that time she has lived as a Jewess and since her arrival in this city she has attended the synagogue with some regularity and affiliated almost immediately. May her conversion be questioned? (Ernest Levi, Los Angeles CA)ANSWER: For many decades the North American Reform movement has provided a fairly uniform course of study for conversion. This has been followed in most communities throughout the country. The length of time spent studying may vary from six to eight months as may the intensity of the instruction provided. The intent, however, has been to give the convert a reasonable background of the major aspects of Judaism and a understanding of basic concept, holidays, practices, liturgy and theology. There have, of course, been deviations from this norm usually due to very specific circumstances, as for example a prospective convert who has long been active in the Jewish community or one who has privately studied Judaism for years; under such circumstances the normal course would be redundant. In all instances the primary consideration remains the intent of the individual to convert. If intent is present and sincere then it will usually be accompanied by a desire to learn far more than the introductory course. A major aspect of our courses is the exposure of the convert to many aspects of Judaism which may test his/her sincerity in ways which could not be anticipated. The course of study, therefore, is important both for what is learned and the additional level of sincerity which it elicits. In this instance we must say that there really was no course of study at all and this prospective convert was hurriedly moved through the ritual. Bediavad conversion is valid. This is in keeping with the traditional sources which simply stated that a few major and a few minor commandments were taught to the prospective convert. He/she was asked whether they accepted the commandments, and that was followed by the ritual of conversion (M Nedarim 3.11; B K 5.4; Shulhan Arukh Orah Hayim 199.4) . We can see that in previous times the instruction was much less formal although, of course, the prospective convert had to be warned and discouraged, but if he/she persisted the authorities accepted the individual. In this instance the life pattern of the woman in question has indicated that she is serious about conversion. She has made Judaism very much part of her existence, she participates in the synagogue and has been actively involved in the Jewish community. There is no reason to question her conversion. It is valid and must be accepted.March 1990

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TFN no.5754.13 259-261

CCAR RESPONSA

Conversion of a “Matrilineal” Jew

5754.13

She’elah

Recently, a woman in her mid-twenties has come to me seeking conversion. Her maternal grandmother had been a practicing Jew. Her mother was raised as a Jew but converted to Christianity when she married. The woman in question was baptized as a Lutheran and brought up in that church. Her sister has meanwhile maintained a Jewish identity and refused to undergo confirmation as a Lutheran. Their father’s sister, while maintaining her native Christianity, married a Jewish man. Thus, there has always been a Jewish influence in this family, most evident at Passover, when the entire family would attend seder at their uncle’s home. The woman in question has met a Jewish man whom she wishes to marry. Is she a Jew by the traditional, “matrilineal” definition? Even should this be the case, I believe that a full conversion is warranted, given that she was raised and confirmed as a Christian. (Rabbi Marvin Schwab, Orangevale, CA)

 

Teshuvah

We agree with your decision to require a conversion for this woman. Under the definition adopted by the Central Conference of American Rabbis at its convention in 1983,1 “the child of one Jewish parent is under the presumption of Jewish descent. This presumption…is to be established through appropriate and timely public and formal acts of identification with the Jewish faith and people…Depending on circumstances, mitzvot leading toward a positive and exclusive Jewish identity will include entry into the covenant, acquisition of a Hebrew name, Torah study, Bar/Bat Mitzvah, and Kabbalat Torah (Confirmation). For those beyond childhood claiming Jewish identity, other public acts or declarations may be added or substituted after consultation with their rabbi.”

 

The last sentence is the governing rule in our case. This Committee has taken the view that the adult child of one Jewish parent requires conversion when that child has never previously identified as a Jew.2 In the case at hand, the woman was baptized and raised as a Christian. That is her religious identity; the Jewish identification of her sister and uncle are irrelevant under the terms of our Resolution. We hold that she has forfeited her claim to Jewish status by way of descent; like any non-Jew who wishes to join us, she may undergo the process of conversion.

 

We should also note that though this woman qualifies as a Jew under the traditional “matrilineal” principle,3 halakhic practice would likely demand some formal ceremony to mark her return to Judaism. While under Torah law (dina de’oraita) she does not require ritual immersion, it is often customary to have the repenting apostate immerse in a mikveh in the presence of a beit din.4 Some authorities do not impose this requirement. A returning apostate, they stress, is a Jew and should be treated as such; no ceremonies connected with the conversion process should be performed for this person.5 A Jew, after all, “even though he sin, nonetheless remains a Jew.”6 Still, the dispute over this issue indicates that not all authorities agree that an apostate remains a Jew, come what may. Some geonim, for example, view such a person as a non-Jew for purposes of levirate marriage and inheritance law.7 The conferral of Jewish status is therefore not necessarily an automatic thing. The response of rabbinic authorities to the phenomenon of apostasy has been varied, reflecting in all probability the varying attitudes of Jewish communities over the course of time toward those who abandon Judaism and those who return to it.

 

To repeat: we agree that this woman requires conversion before she can be accepted as a member of the Jewish people.

 

Notes

Report of the Committee on Patrilineal Descent on the Status of Children of Mixed Marriages, in American Reform Responsa, 550. Contemporary American Reform Responsa (CARR), # 39, pp. 68-69, 42, pp. 71-72 (end), and 59, pp. 95-96. Learned by implication from the words of M. Kiddushin 3:12. Hiddushei Ha-Ritba, Yebamot 47b; Nimukei Yosef, Alfasi Yebamot, fol. 16b; Isserles to SA, YD 268:12. R. Shelomo b. Shimeon Duran, Resp. Rashbash, # 89, urges that those forced into baptism (anusim) who seek to return should be “drawn with cords of love”. For other sources, see CARR, # 64, pp. 104-105. While there can be no exact comparison between American Jews in our day and the anusim of yore, it can be argued that this woman, whose mother was an apostate, was an “involuntary” convert to Christianity. BT Sanhedrin 44a, after Joshua 7:11. Rashi is recognized as the authority who first lent halakhic force to this aggadic saying; see Teshuvot Rashi, ed. Elfenbein, # 171, 173, and 175. Otzar HeGeonim, BT. Yebamot 22a and Kiddushin 18a.

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RR21 no. 5758.7

CCAR RESPONSA

Conversion of a Person Suffering from Mental Illness

5758.7

She’elah

A woman in my congregation, married to a Jewish man, has been coming to me to study for conversion to Judaism. Her own religious background is quite mixed, and she feels

no particular attachment to any other faith. She has some knowledge of Judaism, and has been reading and studying with me for about six months. I believe she is sincere about wanting to convert to Judaism, although some of the motivation undoubtedly comes from her in-laws. In my opinion, however, she is not mentally stable.

The first thing she told me when we met was that she was a borderline personality who had been sexually abused by both of her parents. In the fairly brief time I have known her she has been on the verge of divorce twice, stated that her husband was abusing her, changed therapists, and asked if she could bring her dog into the sanctuary with her for emotional solace in a new environment. She often makes very dramatic statements, only to back away from them later. From everything I have been able to learn, she is quite clearly a borderline personality, a well-recognized diagnosis of significant mental illness. She is not, however, insane or incapable of making decisions for herself.

May I reject her as a candidate for conversion on grounds of her mental illness?

Teshuvah

1. Mental Competence and Mental Illness.

The possession of mental competence (da`at or de`ah) is one of the principal requirements for conversion to Judaism. This is because conversion is understood as the acceptance by a Gentile of the mitzvot, the obligations of Jewish life.[1] One who is mentally incompetent is not judged legally accountable for his or her actions;[2] therefore, a Jew who lacks da`at is exempt from the duty to perform the mitzvot.[3] Accordingly, the Jew-by-choice who seeks to enter the community of mitzvot must be able understand the nature of the duties he or she is accepting and to be held responsible for them. As our Committee has written in a similar case:[4] “conversion to Judaism is a major religious step which cannot be taken lightly; this act has legal (halachic) implications… (since) a complete understanding of Judaism is necessary for a sincere and complete conversion, such prospective converts must be of sound mind and mentally competent. We cannot accept individuals who do not meet these prerequisites.”

For these reasons, it is clear that we are entitled and even required to reject a candidate for conversion should we find that he or she does not possess the necessary mental competence. The question we face here is whether this prospective proselyte fits that concept. Does she, on account of her emotional disturbance, lack the “sound mind” necessary to make the responsible choice to enter the covenant of Israel?

To ask this question is to ask whether, in the terms of our tradition, this woman exhibits the characteristics of the shoteh/ah, the “insane” person, who by definition does not possess da`at and is thereby exempted from any and all responsibility to uphold the mitzvot.[5] The talmudic sources identify the shoteh as one who wanders alone at night, who sleeps in the cemetery, who rips his or her clothing, or who loses everything that is given to him or her.[6] The halakhic consensus holds that a person need not exhibit all of these behaviors to be defined as a shoteh; one of them alone is sufficient, provided that the action is performed regularly and in such a way that it offers evidence of insanity.[7] There is considerable disagreement in the literature as to whether insanity (shetut) is to be identified by these actions in particular or whether they are to be seen as examples of a more general condition. Some authorities regard the list in talmudic sources as exhaustive; “we have nothing to rely upon except the words of our Sages.”[8] Maimonides, on the other hand, takes the opposite view. The shoteh of whom we speak is only the one “who walks about naked, breaking things and throwing stones,” but rather “one who has lost his mind and whose mind is consistently disturbed with respect to any matter, even though he speaks rationally on all other matters.”[9]

This position surely strikes us as the more reasonable one, since it is difficult to imagine a plausible definition of insanity that restricts itself to but three or four specific actions out of a host of others that are clearly symptomatic of serious mental disturbance. As noted above, even a person who exhibits those behaviors is not judged insane by talmudic standards unless they are performed in a manner that indicates insanity (derekh shetut);[10] thus, “insanity” is better understood as a manner of behavior, a state of mental disturbance which can express itself in any number of ways, rather than as a catalogue of several specific acts.[11] Although contemporary Orthodox halakhists tend not to decide between the two sides of this legal dispute,[12] they are capable of recognizing that judgments in this area are necessarily complex. As one puts it: “it is impossible to define with precision just who is called a ‘shoteh’ in our time, or more properly, at which stage (of an illness) a person is defined as ‘insane’ and exempt from the mitzvot… On account of the wide variety of psychiatric ailments along with the many specific forms of behavior, which can change from time to time due to natural causes or as a result of treatment, we are required to judge each case separately, in accordance with the opinion of experts and the judgment of the rabbinic authority or beit din.”[13] For our part, we hold that the definition of mental illness is to be made by observation a matter of medicine and psychology, properly determined by the accepted procedures of those disciplines. As we have written, “given our positive attitude as liberal Jews toward modernity in general, it is surely appropriate to rely upon the findings of modern science, rather than upon tenuous analogies from traditional sources, in order to render what we must consider to be scientific judgments.”[14] We think that this position accurately reflects the view of Maimonides, applied in the context of the scientific and cultural realities of our time.

None of this, of course, renders the answer to this she’elah a simple one. Even if we accept this woman’s testimony that she suffers from an emotional disorder, we may not be in a position to declare that she does not possess the requisite mental competence we demand of a person who chooses Judaism. To be sure, borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious condition, and those afflicted with it “present a variety of neurotic symptoms and character defects.”[15] They may, we are told, fail to establish their own identities. They may be emotionally unbalanced and impulsive, display multiple phobias, obsessive thoughts and behaviors, and paranoid traits. They may be constantly angry and frequently depressed, sexually promiscuous, and have a pronounced tendency toward drug and alcohol abuse. They are unable to develop lasting relationships in marriage and career, They are quite difficult as patients, often attempting to manipulate their therapists in order to gain needed gratification. Many of them threaten suicide, and some of them are indeed suicidal. All of this may be true of BPD individuals in general and of this woman in particular, yet this is still not enough to say that she, the individual whose case we are addressing here, is a shotah, lacking the da`at or capacity to make rational decisions and judgments about herself and her life. We should not forget that a medical term such as “borderline personality disorder” is simply a name given to a particular constellation of “neurotic symptoms and character defects.” It is a category utilized by the mental health professions as a means of classifying data and determining courses of treatment. It is a description of a general phenomenon which in and of itself does not tell us that this woman is “insane.” Put another way, while this woman may be “mentally ill,” we do not know by that token that she is mentally incompetent. The diagnosis, assuming it is an accurate one, cannot serve as a substitute for a careful examination of her character, her strengths and weaknesses, her “defects” and her resiliency in overcoming or compensating for them.

This is merely another way of saying that “general principles do not decide concrete cases;”[16] or, as Maimonides remarks in his discussion of mental competence, “since it is impossible to define ‘da`at’ with full precision in writing, the matter must be decided by the judge in the particular instance.”[17] To translate this insight into the terms of the present she’elah, we cannot say this individual is unfit for conversion based upon a diagnosis that she suffers from a general syndrome known as “borderline personality disorder.” Such a determination can be based only upon a finding that this person, this individual human being, lacks the mental competence we think necessary to make an informed and rational choice for Judaism.

2. Proper and Improper Motivations for Conversion.

Yet the definition of “insanity” is not the only issue here. Our case turns as well upon the question of proper motivations for conversion to Judaism, which the Talmud discusses in two places. In the first, which describes what we must call the ideal state, the prospective proselyte is warned of all the hardships and dangers that await him should he become a Jew; if he says, “would that I merit to participate in their suffering!,” he is accepted forthwith.[18] The second text speaks not of the pure religious motivations of the ideal candidate but of those that inspire other sorts of individuals. It tells us that, in principle (lekhatchilah), we should not accept proselytes who wish to convert in order to marry a Jew, or who seek to join us out of a desire to share in our good fortune, or who come to Judaism in response to fear or threats, real or imagined, although should such persons undergo a valid process of conversion they are nonetheless considered proselytes.[19] The medieval commentators raised a difficulty against this “in principle” standard, noting several examples of Talmudic sages who accepted as proselytes individuals who came before them with evidently improper motives. They resolved the difficulty by suggesting that in those cases the sages were confident that the proselytes who came originally out of ulterior motivations would ultimately accept the Torah “for the sake of Heaven.”[20] And on the basis of that resolution, later authorities declare: “we learn from this that (with respect to conversion) the entire matter is left to the judgment of the beit din.”[21]

This, as far as we are concerned, is a chief guiding principle in our thinking about conversion. It is for the beit din, the religious tribunal under the supervision of the presiding rabbi, to determine in each and every case whether the person who comes before us for conversion does so for reasons that are appropriate. Occasionally, Orthodox authorities will rely upon this discretionary power in order to accept proselytes who wish to become Jews for reasons that fall far short of the ideal standard of pure religious conviction.[22] Yet whether for leniency or stringency, the decision is in any event for the authorities to make. On this point we are in full agreement with Orthodox halakhic thinking. Conversion, for us no less than for other Jews, is not a decision left to the heart and mind of the proselyte but a formal and public matter. One who seeks to convert seeks to join our community as a full and participating “citizen” thereof. It is accordingly for the Jewish community, acting through its acknowledged rabbinical representatives, to determine in each and every case whether an individual who wishes to convert is in fact ready to do so, for reasons that we find persuasive and compelling.

Let us turn this insight to the present case. If the rabbi under whose guidance this woman is studying believes that she is ready for conversion, that she fully understands the fateful nature of this step and is preparing to undertake it out of motivations that strike him as credible and appropriate, then he is entitled (and perhaps even obligated)[23] to accept her as a Jew-by-choice. On the other hand, should the rabbi find that there is significant doubt as to this woman’s mental and emotional readiness to make a thoughtful, careful and responsible decision to convert to Judaism, he is entitled (and perhaps required) to reject her candidacy. The burden of proof, that is to say, is upon the candidate to demonstrate her readiness and not upon the rabbi to demonstrate the opposite. His decision need not be based upon preponderant evidence that she is “insane” and lacking in da`at. He may even find, as he tells us in his she’elah, that she is “sincere” in her desire to convert. Yet so long as he is not convinced that she is ready to take this step, so long as he has good reason to believe that her desire to convert is reflective of an emotional pathology rather than what can be defined as a reasonable and responsible choice, he is definitely under no obligation to accept her.

Conclusion.

The rabbi may indeed reject this woman as a candidate for conversion, although not simply on the grounds of mental illness. A finding that she is “mentally ill” or even that she displays a condition as serious as borderline personality disorder does not necessarily in and of itself prove that she is lacking in da`at, the ability to make responsible and appropriate choices. The term “mental illness” is a broad descriptive category and not a diagnosis of the fitness of the individual person; we should beware of taking any step which suggests that those who suffer from “mental illness” are to be labelled as “insane.” He may reject her rather on the grounds that this decision, in his carefully considered opinion, is motivated by factors that call its rationality and appropriateness into serious question. In any event, “the entire matter is left to the discretion of the beit din.”

NOTES

 

  • On the process of kabalat hamitzvot by a proselyte, see BT Yevamot 47a-b; Yad, Isurey Bi’ah 14:1-5; SA YD 268:2-3. Conversion is commonly portrayed in the sources as the ritual and spiritual equivalent of the acceptance of the Torah by our ancestors at Sinai; see BT Keritot 9a and Yad, Isurey Bi’ah 13:1-5, along with BT Yevamot 46a, and Rashi, s.v. be’avoteinu shemalu.
  • M.

Bava Kama 8:4; Yad, Chovel Umazik 4:20; SA CM 424:8.

  • BT

Chagigah 2b and Rashi, 2a, s.v. chutz: the deaf-mute (cheresh), the insane person (shoteh), and the minor (katan) are exempt from the obligation to perform the mitzvot on the ground that “they do not possess de`ah.” See also M. Rosh Hashanah 3:8: these same individuals cannot sound the shofar on behalf of others because they themselves are not “obligated with respect to this act.” See Yad, Edut 9:9: the shoteh is not qualified to serve as a witness because “he is not subject to the mitzvot”; and Yad, Chametz Umatzah 6:4 (based upon BT Rosh Hashanah 28a): one who performs a mitzvah during a moment of insanity has not fulfilled his obligation, for at that moment he was “exempt from all the mitzvot.”

  • American Reform Responsa

(ARR), no. 67. The she’elah there dealt with a prospective convert described as “mentally unbalanced (paranoid).”

  • See M. Arakhin 1:1 and the sources cited in note 3.
  • Tosefta

Terumot 1:3; BT Chagigah 3b-4a; PT Terumot 1:1 (40b) and parallels.

  • Hil. HaRosh

, Chulin 1:4, following the view of R. Yochanan and the setam talmud in BT Chagigah 3b-4a; SA Yore De`ah 1:5; R. Shelomo Luria, Yam Shel Shelomo, Chulin 1:4.

  • R. Yosef Kolon (15th-cent. Italy), Resp. Maharik Hachadashot, no. 20, quotes R. Avigdor Hakohen (13th-cent. Germany) in a teshuvah to R. Meir of Rothenburg: “one who is not judged a shoteh by the actions mentioned in the first chapter of Chagigah [3b] must be declared mentally competent in all respects.” R. Yitzchak b. Sheshet, it would seem, also reads the talmudic list as exhaustive; Resp. Rivash, nos. 20 and 468. And R. Yosef Karo, in SA YD 1:5, defines the shoteh as one who exhibits the behaviors mentioned in the Talmud. See, however, note 9.
  • Yad

, Edut 9:9-10. See R. Yosef Karo’s discussion in Beit Yosef, EHE 121. Karo adopts Maimonides’ definition of the shoteh in SA CM 35:8, thereby creating a difficulty against his ruling in YD 1:5.

  • BT

Chagigah 3b.

  • We might echo in this regard the rhetorical question posed by R. Ya`akov Weil (15th-cent. Germany, Responsa, no. 52): “consider the one who does not rend his garments, does not sleep in the cemetery and does not wander alone at night and yet acts in an insane manner in all other respects. Is he not to be judged insane?” Other poskim suggest that the “symptoms” mentioned in BT Chagigah do not define insanity but are rather standards by which to measure insanity in its most obvious and extreme manifestation. Thus, R. Yosef Kolon (see note 8), who does not decide the machloket between Maimonides and the opposing view, writes that “if one agrees that the ‘signs’ of insanity mentioned in Chagigah are not exhaustive and that the Sages were simply giving examples… (this means that) one should examine to see whether a person has reached an extreme level of shetut such as evidenced by these behaviors.” This position is accepted explicitly by R. Yechezkel Landau (18th-cent. Prague), in a responsum included in the book Or Hayashar (ch. 30), an 18th-century work containing rabbinical responsa over the validity of a get issued by a husband who may or may not have been “insane.”
  • See R. A.S. Avraham, Nishmat Avraham 3:181, who recites the machloket but does not attempt to resolve it directly.
  • Ibid

., 181-182.

  • Responsum no. 5757.2.
  • A.M. Freedman, MD, Harold I. Kaplan, MD, and P.J. Sadock, MD, eds., Comprehensive Textbook of Psychiatry, Second Edition (Baltimore: Williams and Wilkins Co., 1975), 550. The medical information in this paragraph is taken from that source and from Benjamin B. Wolman, editor-in-chief, The Encyclopedia of Psychiatry, Psychology, and Psychoanalysis (New York: Henry Holt, 1996), 83.
  • The quotation is taken from the famous dissent of U.S. Supreme Court Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. in Lochner v. New York, 198 U.S. 45, 74 (1905). Holmes continued that “the decision will depend on a judgment or intuition more subtle than any articulate major premise.” This notion is a key to the understanding of legal reasoning, no less applicable to the halakhic tradition than to any other system of law.
  • Yad, Edut 9:10.
  • BT

Yevamot 47a and Rashi, s.v. ve’eini kedai; Yad, Isurey Bi’ah 14:1; SA YD 268:2.

  • BT

Yevamot 24b, including the mishnah (M. Yevamot 2:8); Yad, Isurey Bi’ah 13:14-17; SA YD 268:12.

  • Tosafot

, Yevamot 24b, s.v. lo. The exceptional cases are those involving Hillel (BT Shabbat 31a) and R. Chiya (BT Menachot 44a).

  • Beit Yosef

, YD 268; Siftey Kohen, YD 268, no. 23.

  • Among the examples: R. Shelomo Kluger, Resp. Tuv ta`am veda`at, no. 230; R. David Zvi Hoffmann, Resp. Melamed leho`il 2:83, 85; R. Benzion Ouziel, Resp. Mishpetey ouziel, YD, no. 14, and EHE, no. 18.
  • See BT Yevamot 47b: once a candidate has demonstrated his full and informed acceptance of the mitzvot, “he is circumcised immediately.” Why, asks the Gemara, do we do this immediately? Because “we do not delay the performance of a mitzvah.”

 

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CARR 80-81

CCAR RESPONSA

Contemporary American Reform Responsa

47. Infant Conversion

QUESTION: A young

couple is in the process of converting. In this instance, the conversion, or the study toward

conversion, has been spread out over a period of two years due to desire for a thorough study,

as well as business problems. The couple is committed to Judaism and the conversion should be

finished in January. The couple expects a child, most likely a male, in September. The local

mohel refuses to do a berit milah, even leshem gerut, as neither parent is

Jewish. What can be done in this instance to start this young lad in life as a Jew? (Rabbi J.

Adland, Indianapolis, IN).ANSWER: Tradition makes clear provisions for the

conversion of Gentile infants to Judaism. The conversion was undertaken by a bet din

who stand in place of the father (Ket. 11a; Yad Hil. Isurei Biah 13.7; Tur, Shulhan

Arukh Yoreh Deah 268.7). This procedure was followed when a father and mother do not

convert to Judaism but wish their son or daughter to be Jewish (Rashi, Rashi, Ritba Ket. 11b).

There was some discussion as to whether a formal bet din was necessary for such

conversion. In the case of the boy there was also controversy as to whether the circumcision

must be done at the request of the bet din or independently (Smak in the name of Aderet;

also Ritba and Meiri to Ket. 11b). Although there is a fair amount of discussion on the

details of the conversion and whether, in the case of a boy the berit milah precedes or

follows the immersion in a miqveh, there is no debate on whether conversion under

these circumstances is possible. It is clearly possible and obviously occurred regularly in the

past. An infant convert always has the right, whether conversion is done at the request

of his father or at the request of a bet din, to renounce his conversion on reaching

maturity. If such renunciation takes place, it is not held against the individual in any way (Ket.

11a; Rashi to Ket. 11a; see also Ritba, Aderet, Meiri; Tur, Shulhan Arukh Yoreh

Deah 268.7). This question is raised upon reaching maturity, i.e., the age of thirteen for boys, or

twelve for girls. It would, therefore, be perfectly possible for you to convert this

youngster at the time of his berit, or if it is a girl, shortly after her birth. This may be done

with or without miqveh according to local custom. This would be completely in keeping

with tradition, as well as Reform Jewish practice. If the local mohel, because of some

individual idiosyncrasy, refuses to do so, then the berit may be conducted with equal

validity by a Jewish physician. The rabbi would recite the appropriate prayers for gerut

and berit milah.August 1984

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NARR 196-197

CCAR RESPONSA

New American Reform Responsa

125. Conversion of a Child

QUESTION: A non-Jewish woman, previously married to a non-Jew, with an eight year old daughter, has married a Jewish man. They have had a child who has been named in the synagogue and is being reared as a Jew. The second husband has now adopted the older daughter. She wishes to become Jewish; should there be a formal conversion or may she be considered under “patrilineal descent?” (Rabbi Morley T. Feinstein, South Bend IN)ANSWER: Whenever we discuss individuals and patrilineal descent, one of the physical parents must be Jewish. When there is one Jewish parent, either father or mother, a potential for Jewish life exists. The Central Conference has therefore declared “Depending on circumstances, mitzvot leading toward a positive and exclusive Jewish identity will include entry into the covenant, acquisition of a Hebrew name, Torah study, Bar/Bat Mitzvah, and Kabbalat Torah (Confirmation). For those beyond childhood claiming Jewish identity, other public acts or declarations may be added or substituted after consultation with their rabbi” (W. Jacob (ed) American Reform Responsa p 550). In this instance the child has no Jewish parents and is being adopted relatively late in her life. She should therefore be formally converted. This would, of course, be different from the conversion of an adult and would consist of her enrollment in religious school at the appropriate grade level, and a formal ritual in the synagogue, as well as immersion in a miqveh, if that is customary. These acts on her part would make the religious transition real and undoubtedly be important to her. They will strengthen her ties to her new family and should be considered an extension of the formal adoption which has taken place.December 1988

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NARR 200-201

CCAR RESPONSA

New American Reform Responsa

128. Conversion of a Child with Two Non-Jewish Parents

QUESTION: A mixed married couple were members of a congregation. The woman had no desire to convert to Judaism but was committed to raising her son as a Jew. She became a regular Temple goer and has continued after his death. She had another child by a non-Jewish man with whom she had a brief relationship. she intends that the child be raised as a Jew just as his brother. Should a mohel perform a berit milah on this child? (Lewis Barth, Los Angeles CA)ANSWER: The newborn baby here is clearly non-Jewish. The fact that the mother was not married to the father plays no role in our discussion. It has always been possible for bet din converting a young child and thus stand in loco parentis. We have used this procedure since Talmudic times (Ket 11a) although in modern times we refrain from it as we do not want to convert any minors who may come to us because of specific family problems or some temporary youthful attraction. We have frequently counseled teenagers with an interest in Judaism to study it academically but not to convert (W. Jacob Contemporary American Reform Responsa #50). In this instance, of course, we face a different situation as this is a baby and is not the child of an outsider, but of an individual who has made a commitment to Judaism albeit without conversion. The mohel should circumcise this child as an act of conversion with the appropriate special blessing; milah leshem gerut is frequent among us. Tevilah should also be considered in accordance with local custom. Technically the child possesses the right to renounce his conversion when he reaches maturity (W. Jacob Contemporary Reform Responsa #49). The previous actions of the mother guarantee that the child will be raised as a Jew along with his older brother. The rabbi should take whatever opportunities this and other occasions present to encourage the young woman to convert to Judaism and in this way to bring religious unity to her young family. Without this step and therefore without a Jewish parent in the home it will be difficult to raise these children as Jews. We should encourage her in every way possible.September 1987

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NYP RR21 no. 5760.5

CCAR RESPONSA

5760.5

Conversion When The Spouse Remains a Gentile

She’elah
A woman has asked a congregational rabbi to sponsor and guide her through the conversion process. After a thorough initial interview, the rabbi discovers that her husband, a Roman Catholic, has no intention of converting to Judaism along with her. Although the rabbi judges her character and motives to be sincere in every way, he cannot agree to be her sponsor because her conversion will result in an interfaith marriage. If she were single or married to a Jew, there would be no question of her qualifications as a potential Jew by choice. Should this woman’s love of Judaism and her sincere desire to convert be impacted by the religious identity of her partner? If an interfaith marriage is the result of this conversion, is the sponsoring rabbi held responsible? (Kathy Kahn, UAHC Commission on Outreach)

Teshuvah
Should we accept for conversion a married person whose Gentile spouse does not share the desire to become a Jew? Orthodox rabbis would likely respond in the negative. The conversion of one spouse would create a mixed marriage, which is prohibited under Jewish law.[1] Orthodox halakhists would interpret the potential convert’s desire to remain in what would become a mixed marriage as a lack of commitment on his or her part to “accept the mitzvot” and to live a fully Jewish life; such a lack of commitment is a serious impediment to the acceptance of a conversion and to its subsequent validity.[2] Even those authorities who are generally lenient with regard to accepting proselytes would presumably reject this conversion.[3]

Should we Reform rabbis respond in the same way? On the one hand, we certainly view the phenomenon of mixed marriage as a matter of deep concern, in that it calls into question the Jewishness of home and family life and the very survival of the Jewish people. We teach that “it is a mitzvah for a Jew to marry a Jew so that the sacred heritage of Judaism may be transmitted most effectively from generation to generation.”[4] Our Conference has formally declared “its opposition to participation by its members in any ceremony which solemnizes a mixed marriage.”[5] Even though many of our members will, under certain circumstances, officiate at ceremonies of mixed marriage,[6] they do so not to lend Jewish religious sanction to those unions but rather in the hope that their act might increase the possibility that the couple will create a Jewish life for themselves and for their children. Even though we do our utmost to reach out to religiously-mixed couples and their families and even though we want them to feel fully at home in our synagogues, we do not see mixed marriage as a proper religious choice for a Jew. Given this stance, it might be argued that we should deny this woman the opportunity to convert to Judaism, on the grounds that converting her would create a mixed marriage in this case and give the impression that we condone mixed marriage in general.

Yet there is another side to this argument. In presiding over this conversion, the rabbi and the beit din do not “create” a mixed marriage. The couple are already married to each other in the eyes of the state, and the conversion does nothing to affect that status in either Jewish or civil law. The ritual of conversion (giyur) is emphatically not a wedding or some other “ceremony which solemnizes a mixed marriage.” Nor does the conversion signal that we somehow “condone” mixed marriage. Although a mixed marriage will be the result of the conversion, it is not its intended result, the goal or purposeful outcome of the action of the beit din. The giyur centers not upon the couple–indeed, the husband is not a participant in the ceremony– but upon the individual who chooses Judaism. It concerns itself with her, with the motivations that have led her to Judaism and with her readiness to enter the covenant of God and Israel. Far from condoning mixed marriage, the conversion does not address that subject at all; it does not alter in the least our teaching that “it is a mitzvah for a Jew to marry a Jew.”

The new Jew-by-choice, it is true, will be living in a situation in which she does not fulfill the mitzvah of Jewish marriage. This fact, however, is not a sufficient cause to deny her request to become a Jew. We do not demand of a ger or giyoret that he or she observe “all” the mitzvot (however we understand that term) as a condition for conversion. For that matter, it is far from certain that even the traditional halakhah makes that demand.[7] This person, to be sure, has come to Judaism at a time and from a place in her life that present special challenges to her as she undertakes to “find satisfaction and joy in the fulfillment of Your sacred mitzvot.”[8] Yet each of us, it must be said, travels a unique path to Jewish commitment. All of us struggle to overcome the obstacles that stand in our way to a more complete Jewish life. None of us is perfect (however we understand that term) in his or her Jewish observance, and we do not require perfection from this proselyte. All we ask of her–and this is no little thing–is that she make a sincere and informed decision to adopt the Jewish faith as her exclusive religious expression and that she identify her fate and destiny with that of the people of Israel.[9] Who are we, who do not know this person, to say that she has not made such a commitment? Who are we to say that she is not one of those who, according to our agadic tradition, has come to discover that she, too, stood at Sinai and entered the covenant?[10]

How do we determine whether this person is in fact fully and sincerely prepared to accept the faith of Israel and to join the Jewish people? That decision, our sources teach, is left to the judgment of the local rabbi.[11] Our point is simply that, given that her motives are “sincere in every way,” the fact that this woman’s husband will remain a Gentile does not constitute in and of itself a reason for us to turn her away. The rabbi, we think, is entitled to accept her as a Jew-by-choice.

At the same time, however, it should be abundantly clear that the rabbi is not required to accept her. We say this because, though her marriage does not automatically disqualify her from conversion, it most certainly signals the rabbi to proceed with caution. Again, we emphasize that we do not know this person and that we have no reason to doubt the sincerity of her decision. Yet we cannot overlook the fact that a conversion in a case such as this creates a mixed-religion household, and this raises serious questions as to the capacity of even the most devoted proselyte to construct a Jewish life. Our ceremony for giyur requires that the Jew-by-choice answer “yes” to the following, among other questions: “Do you promise to establish a Jewish home?” and “If you should be blessed with children, do you promise to raise them as Jews?”[12] Even with the best of intentions, a proselyte whose spouse remains a Gentile will face enormous difficulties in achieving these goals. For example, does the spouse identify strongly with his or her own religion? A household in which some other religion is practiced on an equal basis with Judaism cannot be called a “Jewish” home in any plausible sense of that term. If children are born to the couple after one of them converts, does the Gentile spouse support him or her in raising those children exclusively as Jews? Children raised in more than one religious identity do not qualify for Jewish status under the CCAR’s Resolution on Patrilineal Descent.[13] All of this testifies to the fact that Judaism is not simply a matter of personal spirituality, restricted to the worship service. Judaism is a complete and all-encompassing religious way of life; it must be practiced in the home as well as in the synagogue, in the family as well as in the heart. No matter how sincere a potential convert’s personal commitment to the Jewish faith, he or she is not yet ready to become a Jew unless that commitment is realized in the arena of home and family life. It is up to the rabbi to determine that such is the case.

Finally, we must raise the issue of the stability of the marriage and the family relationship. A decision to choose Judaism is a life-transforming event, a matter of ultimate seriousness. From this point forward, the Jew-by-choice is committed to new patterns of worship, of ritual behavior, and of personal consciousness. “The proselyte,” we are taught, “is like a new-born child”[14]; making a significant break with all that is past, he or she from now on seeks religious fulfillment as a member of the community of Israel. What does this transformation do to the spouse who does not join in it? How will it alter the common fabric of the marriage? Does it reflect a separation between the couple, a coming apart? As a matter of pastoral responsibility, the rabbi must inquire as to the psychological sources of this decision and as to its effects upon the marriage and the household.

Conclusion. A person who wishes to become a Jew should not be rejected merely because his or her spouse will remain a Gentile. In dealing with conversion, our primary responsibility is toward the individual proselyte. If the rabbi determines, through careful examination, that the decision to convert is “sincere in every way,” then he or she may be accepted as a Jew-by-choice. On the other hand, the spouse’s decision not to become a Jew may be an indication of serious obstacles to the proselyte’s creation of a Jewish life and of problems in the marriage. The rabbi must be satisfied that these difficulties are not serious before proceeding with giyur. In any event, both the rabbi and the prospective proselyte are well advised to proceed slowly, deliberately, and with all caution. No arbitrary time limit can or should be set. Let them rather take all the time they need to determine whether this decision is the right one, both for the Jew-by-choice and for the Jewish people.

 

 

NOTES

 

  • The prohibition is derived from Deuteronomy 21:13; see BT Kidushin 68b. Another possible source is Deuteronomy 7:3, which ostensibly forbids marriage only with members of the seven Canaanite nations. Maimonides, however, reads the prohibition as covering all Gentiles; see Yad, Isurey Bi’ah 12:1.
  • On the requirement that the ger/giyoret accept the mitzvot (kabalat hamitzvot) see BT Yevamot 47a-b; Yad, Isurei Bi’ah 13:4 (where he speaks of accepting the yoke of the Torah; Shulchan Arukh YD 268:3. That this acceptance must be complete, without any reservations whatsoever, is indicated in BT Bekhorot 30b: a Gentile who comes to accept the Torah except for one precept is not accepted for conversion. Although this statement is not codified in either the Mishneh Torah or the Shulchan Arukh, it does reflect the thrust of contemporary Orthodox halakhic opinion, which suggests that the proselyte’s failure to observe all the commandments is retroactive evidence that the conversion was null and void ab initio. See, for example, R. Avraham Yitzchak Hakohen Kook, Resp. Da`at Kohen, nos. 154-155, and R. Yitzchak Halevy Herzog, Resp. Heikhal Yitzxhak EHE 1:1, nos. 19-21. Yet not all Orthodox halakhists take this position; see at n. 7, below.
  • A case in point is R. Benzion Ouziel, Resp. Mishpetei Ouziel EHE 18. In this teshuvah, he demonstrates his generally lenient approach by accepting conversion for the sake of marriage, even though this is generally considered an improper motivation for conversion, on the grounds that this step is necessary to combat the plague of mixed marriage that afflicts the Jewish community. In the same responsum, however, he addresses a second question: is it permissible to convert a Gentile woman who is already married to a kohen? Here his answer is no: since a kohen is prohibited to marry a proselyte (giyoret), to convert this woman would mean that he would transgress that prohibition. R. Ouziel says this, even though the kohen is already violating the prohibition against intermarriage. Based on his reasoning, it seems clear that he would also rule strictly in our case, in which a conversion would lead to a transgression (intermarriage) in a place where, at the moment, no transgression exists.

 

  • Gates of Mitzvah (New York: CCAR, 1979), 36. And on page 37: Judaism resists mixed marriage because it weakens the fabric of family relationship and the survival potential of the Jewish community, and because it makes it more difficult to establish the mikdash me-at that should be the goal of every Jewish marriage.
  • See Central Conference of American Rabbis Yearbook 83 (1973), 97, for the text of the resolution. An expansive argument on behalf of the resolution is found in American Reform Responsa, no. 149.
  • As indicated in the second paragraph of the resolution cited in note 5.
  • See note 2. Although the preponderance of contemporary Orthodox opinion requires that the proselyte accept “all” the mitzvot–which is tantamount in their eyes to a requirement that he or she become an Orthodox Jew–some authorities hold otherwise. Some understand the requirement of kabalat hamitzvot as the ger/giyoret’s self-imposed obligation to undergo circumcision and/or immersion before a beit din (Chidushei Haramban, Yevamot 46b; R. Meir Posner, Resp. Beit Meir, no. 12). Others see it as a general commitment “to forsake his people and its gods, to take refuge beneath the wings of the Shechinah, to accept the religion of Israel and to enter the Jewish community” (R. Shelomo Lifschitz [18th-19th cent. Poland], Resp. Chemdat Shelomo, YD 29, nos. 22-23). R. Benzion Ouziel sees kabalat hamitzvot primarily as the proselyte’s acceptance of the obligation to keep the mitzvot; this acceptance is valid even if we know in advance that he or she will not observe them (Resp. Mishpetei Ouziel II, YD 1:58). In other words, the giyur “takes” even though the proselyte does not live a thoroughly “Orthodox” life style following the conversion. On all this in detail, see Zvi Zohar and Avraham Sagi, Giyur uzehut yehudit (Jerusalem: Mosad Bialik, 1997), 171ff.

 

  • Rabbi’s Manual (New York: CCAR, 1988), 200, from the “Giyur Service in the Synagogue.”
  • See BT Yevamot 47a, the ger’s declaration of his readiness to accept the vicissitudes of Jewish existence; and see Rashi ad loc., s.v. ve’eini kehda’i.
  • The teaching that all future converts were virtually present at Sinai, a midrash on Deut. 29:14, is found in BT Shabbat 146a.
  • In matters of conversion, “everything is left to the judgment of the court”; R. Yosef Karo, Beit Yosef YD 268, based upon Tosafot Yevamot 24b, s.v. lo.

 

 

  • Rabbi’s Manual, 201.
  • The text of the resolution itself (see Rabbi’s Manual, 226) speaks of the performance of “timely public and formal acts of identification with the Jewish faith and people”; these are “mitzvot leading toward a positive and exclusive Jewish identity” (emphasis added). See also Teshuvot for the Nineties, 5755.17, 251-258; Questions and Reform Jewish Answers, no. 109; and Contemporary American Reform Responsa, no. 61.

 

  • BT Yevamot 22a and parallels.

If needed, please consult Abbreviations used in CCAR Responsa.